I was told the other day that if I see a flaw in another it is simply a flaw in my own perception and an opportunity for me to right a past wrong. All I have to do is take the time to recognize that person is perfectly fine. Then I will be free of what I was seeing and they will be free of what I thought I saw in them. So I thought, "I'll try it, what do I have to lose? Really, it can't hurt but it could help." What is really crazy...it seemed to work! Produced quite the amazing sense of freedom.  Paul Bardis